One thing I'm scared of when I get older is not having many friends. So throughout my life I've always tried to make new friends, and on average, I make 1-2 new close friends a year.

I have a theory that most people lose friends at a specific rate. And in order to offset this, I have to make new friends. So I almost always say yes to things involving meeting new people!

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Well, first, I go to a fair amount of events. So networking or friend parties once or twice a month. Usually I try to chat with everyone in the room or at minimum half. I engage earnestly with everyone I meet, and from that, I usually enjoy conversations with 1-2 people. 

Then, I get their contact information, a few days later, msg them and tell them I enjoyed talking about X at party. I also try to offer upfront value to them - connecting them with clients, products I think they'll like etc. Just so they know I'm thinking of them. 

Then I'll invite them to a low commitment event - so something like a coffee, exercise etc. Something where if they don't want to talk to me they don't have to or can leave early. Out of that people get comfortable and start inviting me out to other stuff too. So that's how I make new friends.

whats your funneling strategy? how do you go from acq -> close friends in less than a year? while doing other stuff

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ugh i need this, next time we chat pls give tips

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Yeah, I feel like I'm just now growing, because I'm learning to communicate more and be open with my feelings.  Things I never did before

You’re in school right? It’s normal to feel self conscious about this kinda stuff. And your friends will be happy to chat with you again :)

I think all the friends I've lost has been my fault... I tend to distance from people even when I think I'm not.. I just feel like I can't tell them stuffs anymore and all of a sudden I don't want to anymore.  But I'm trying to reconnect with everyone I've lost (that was my fault) :)

I think about this too. I never say no to a weird invite or a good conversation. That’s where the future friends hide.

Quality over quantity and I find it’s best to make friends with younger ppl.

Some more (western) science theory
1. We replace our forgotten friends with similar other ones
2. We explore the worlds thanks to our friends. Most exchange breath of experiences for depth at à point in their life

making new friends is like adding new stars to your personal galaxy. the trick is keeping those constellations shining bright even as the universe shifts. saying yes to new connections is the warp drive that keeps your social cosmos expanding.