@0xdesigner on Farcaster: "i’ve been seeing a therapist f..."

Hope it helps! What I did (that I found extra helpful when in therapy) is I would journal after each session, making note of what we talked about, and if anything resonated strongly or perhaps was a key problem I was trying to solve. Then, 20 min before the next session, I would read my previous journal, and jot down 1-3 key things I thought would be beneficial to focus on in that new session as a framework 🔁

jpfraneto

7mo

on % and average, how much time does each one of you talk on the sessions?

0xdesigner

7mo

before i tell you, tell me: is there a right answer?

jpfraneto

7mo

i definitely feel that my psychologist could talk less. but i also trust that im in a process, so allow him to do that. but it feels like work in some sense. very intense work. so i don't think there is a right answer but without the labelling of the answer, for me it would be: 33% me that should be at least 50:50 IMHO

raulonastool

7mo

The problem I had with therapy was that I wanted to understand what the issue was and how to fix it. But a lot of talk therapy leans on the idea that I already have the answers and the therapist is just there to ask the right questions. That might work for some people, but if I’m seeking therapy, it’s probably because I’ve already asked myself every question I can think of. I’ve hit the limit of what I can solve on my own. I think this is common for people with analytical minds like mine, especially folks in tech. What I need at that point isn’t more reflection, it’s something I haven’t tried yet. New tools, new strategies, or even just more structure. I’ve heard CBT might be a better fit for this.

ilyat

7mo

stop calling your prompt a therapist

rubinovitz

7mo

most therapists are really bad at their job

stevedv.eth

7mo

5 months of ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) has done more for me than 10 years of on and off CBT with 5 different providers. Most of CBT felt like gossiping for me, with very sparse insight. You may benefit from a specialized type of therapy depending on what is bringing you in the first place.

7mo

did you start therapy with a goal? too many people i know don't go in with something they'd like to achieve, and then wonder why it does nothing for them

0xchris

7mo

Yes, I see this come up often. I’ve found it makes a big difference to approach each session with the same care, focus, and respect you’d give an important business meeting.

lght.eth

7mo

sounds like time for a new therapist?

irisivanyi.eth

7mo

tbh kinda bad from them if they haven’t checked on how you feel about your sessions and (or) didn’t course-correct maybe worth trialling other ones

chaim

7mo

are you behind a well-lit screen like at the solana presentation during your sessions feels like that could get in the way of progress

Dr. Melfi innit?

personally, as a therapist/clinician, I’d be interested in their theoretical perspective and why you (vaguely) started it up

amado

7mo

If someone is seeking therapy for trauma, I might suggest a certain theoretical perspective versus another. If you’re feeling as if you’re learning nothing, I would wonder if there is a mismatch between what you’re seeking and what they’re offering.