why are the girls always fighting, i literally just want everyone to vibe together

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Mmmmhmmm was not happy to see today’s fighting — like just stop trying to gain clout on @winny’s back already 🙄

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unfortunately there was very little insight in the article and seems to be a fun bashing trend

Yup pure rage bait engagement farming — ain’t nobody got time for that

parts of the article (or even maybe the whole thing) were handled clumsily but I think she has a point

i've been on the other end of harassment and intimidation from women in the industry and there are definitely mean girl dynamics, singling out winny / projecting intentions onto her is definitely wrong

reposting my thoughts on chloe’s piece because i think it’s important for the girls, especially the ones newer to the space. i’ve worked in crypto since 2017 and i’ve experienced more than my share of bullshit and trauma. some of it public, most of it quiet. what i’ve learned: protection doesn’t come from formal structures, it comes from each other.
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i appreciate the honesty here, and i agree with some points.. performative feminism and internalized misogyny are real issues, especially in hypervisible spaces like CT. but I think this piece collapses a lot of nuance into a single, sweeping narrative

yes, contradictions exist. but so does context. sometimes what looks like "subtweeting" is actually people processing harm. sometimes women with platforms are learning in public, imperfectly, while also trying to survive an ecosystem not built for them.

there's no universal playbook for how to show up, and expecting perfect solidarity under constant scrutiny feels like a setup

i also think it’s dangerous to frame complex behavior as “selective feminism” without acknowledging how power operates. in a space where connections = survival, some people are navigatinng real fear (of exclusion, of retaliation, of reputational loss). that doesn't excuse harmful behavior, but it does explain some of the silence! 

feminism in crypto isn’t failing because women are messy or contradictory. It’s evolving under pressure inside an ecosystem that often rewards compliance over speaking out

speaking from personal experience: whisper networks exist for a reason. formal structures rarely protect you and the cost of naming harm publicly can be brutal (socially, professionally, emotionally). you lose access. you get labeled “difficult.” you become the problem for pointing out the problem.

that’s why many women leverage their networks quietly, to stay safe, to warn each other, to survive. sometimes it’s choosing not to speak up because you know how this ends.

so yes, there are contradictions. yes, people falter. but that’s not a failure of feminism, it’s a feature of navigating power while trying to build something better.

if you’ve never had to choose between your safety and your credibility, you’re lucky. if you have, you know that survival often looks like silence. andd that doesn’t make you complicit. it makes you real!! 

let’s push for more care
but let’s also have grace for people who are still figuring it out while trying to build something better in public https://paragraph.com/@intrusivethots/women-in-web3-are-some-of-the-most-confusing-people-ive-ever-met

def, and i think @cherdougie very eloquently touches on a lot of that nuance here

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def, and i think @cherdougie very eloquently touches on a lot of that nuance here https://farcaster.xyz/cherdougie/0x9266a6bf

i think she definitely does too but saying we should show more care to other women is a two way street

some of the worst things have happened to me at shefi events, and I think the question is 'what should we expect from other women in crypto we don't know?'

i don't know that I would say feminism and sisterhood atm