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@debthemelon
Yesterday, I received a call from my aunt. She asked when she would finally be introduced to my future husband. She also mentioned that my mum wants grandkids, but doesn’t know how to bring it up with me. It was a serious conversation. One I’ve been dreading for years. Because the truth is, I’ve made the decision never to get married or have children. And if I were to ever get married, it would be to a woman, not a man. But that’s not a truth I can easily share. Same-sex relationships aren’t legal where I live. They aren’t just frowned upon, they’re criminalized. Choosing not to have children is seen as rebellion, selfishness, even wickedness. This will always be funny to me. In this part of the world, if you don’t have a child after a year of marriage, people start talking. They say you’re barren, a witch, or that you had too many abortions and destroyed your womb. The blame always falls on the woman. They did it to my mum.
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@debthemelon
As a firstborn child, the weight is heavier. But I will not live my life for them anymore. I already did that and I couldn't bear it. I still have to hide certain parts of myself till this day because I'm scared of being ostracized by the people I love. Maybe it is a reality I have to come to terms with, I might lose them.
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@abbiexoxo
I totally understand you, I have a friend in the community, and she just had to tell her mum eventually. I mean, it's her life, not theirs. Her mum was a little bit receptive about it. So, you never know until you actually try it out, so I'm rooting for you, baby, and I love you so much. Xoxo💕
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@eneyamire
I totally understand how you feel. As someone who has always said she’s not going to get married because of how her parents’ marriage turned out, even though I’ve given myself to relationships, I still don’t feel like marriage is for me. I’ve told my mother and siblings and made sure to stand my ground, especially when it comes to matters that concern me. You have to tell them. Your mom might cry and try to persuade you using emotions, but I want you to remember it’s your life, not theirs. I live by nobody is coming to save me, and that’s it. I’m rooting for you, and I hope they come to understand and accept your decision. 🫂
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@miprox
I think having a heart to heart conversation with who you think is the most important here (your mom and you) should help, ignore the negativity from outside. Rooting for you and I’m certain you’ll sss this through. Take care ❤️
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@voiced
Choosing to live your life how you please will only make her happy. Just let her know where you are and the path you have chosen. You are doing great
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@nanah
i love how determined you are to live life on your terms
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@youfoundfayy
Sometimes I wish I wasn’t from here
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@veiva
I told my mum that if she ever disturbs me about marriage, I’d block her😭🤣
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@inabahoor
Happy weekend babes ❤️
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@supersia
I’m glad you’re deciding to live for you. I hate how everyone just expects you to settle down and have kids like there isn’t more to life
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@amethystaura
I’m so sorry you have to hide these parts of yourself😔 you are such a beautiful person who deserves to love who you want to love. I hope someday you can have that and know you will always have support from me even if you don’t have it from others in your life❤️❤️❤️
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@coconutrinds
i’m so so sorry, this is soo relatable top to bottom. i hope we find the strength to withstand the coming years and im rooting for you🩷
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@lianta
idk why in this part of the world they have attached so much importance to marriage…i think you should just have a conversation with your mom, she’ll have to live with it eventually even though it won’t be easy b im rooting for you love🫶
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@tyrexthanuisanc
I have a colleague who currently clocked 35, earns a huge salary for our current economic situation. So everyone's expectation is for her to get married & have kids. Luckily her mother doesn't stress cause of how her own marriage turned out. I believe society shouldn't make marriage seem like a huge achievement.
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@lamilayoo
I can imagine 🫂❤️
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@teesparty
youre so strong, have the conversation with your mom, just let them know you made a decision not to get married, theyd yell, shout, scream, even say they'd disown you and all that, but they'll later come to accept you being in a country that doesnt allow same sex marriage is hard p.s dont let them know youre into women, just give them another legitimate reason why you dont want to get married and you'll be fine thanks for sharing Deb
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