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@debthemelon
Yesterday, I received a call from my aunt. She asked when she would finally be introduced to my future husband. She also mentioned that my mum wants grandkids, but doesn’t know how to bring it up with me. It was a serious conversation. One I’ve been dreading for years. Because the truth is, I’ve made the decision never to get married or have children. And if I were to ever get married, it would be to a woman, not a man. But that’s not a truth I can easily share. Same-sex relationships aren’t legal where I live. They aren’t just frowned upon, they’re criminalized. Choosing not to have children is seen as rebellion, selfishness, even wickedness. This will always be funny to me. In this part of the world, if you don’t have a child after a year of marriage, people start talking. They say you’re barren, a witch, or that you had too many abortions and destroyed your womb. The blame always falls on the woman. They did it to my mum.
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@eneyamire
I totally understand how you feel. As someone who has always said she’s not going to get married because of how her parents’ marriage turned out, even though I’ve given myself to relationships, I still don’t feel like marriage is for me. I’ve told my mother and siblings and made sure to stand my ground, especially when it comes to matters that concern me. You have to tell them. Your mom might cry and try to persuade you using emotions, but I want you to remember it’s your life, not theirs. I live by nobody is coming to save me, and that’s it. I’m rooting for you, and I hope they come to understand and accept your decision. šŸ«‚
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@debthemelon
I can’t imagine how hard it was to have the conversation. You're so strong šŸ’œ Thank you for sharing my love. I'm going to have the conversation with her and I alreasybknowhow it’ll go but it'll be okay šŸ„¹šŸ’•
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