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Zak El Fassi
@zef
gm parents… pre-labor: “it’s SO BEAUTIFUL bringing a life into this world” post-labor: “it gets easier after the first month… maybe three months, after neck control.” Are we all just perpetuating a lie to continue playing civilization? or should i expect a MIB visit soon for a “memory wipe”?
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Zach
@zherring
I remember the early months being hard but my wife and I still sit on the couch at night looking at pictures of her from 6 months ago and teary eyed. All of this to say, a memory wipe is imminent.
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Zak El Fassi
@zef
that’s awesome to hear and a great datapoint. running this sim has been… interesting in forking my “Self” into a present zombie and future nostalgic. it just feels like the sim Time expands hard thanks to lack of sleep and infinitely growing responsibilities. Stack overflow ~> memory reset.
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Zach
@zherring
Yeah I mean, it's a season, y'know? There's things I want to do/read/see/build that I absolutely cannot right now because the two year old demands attention. But a friend 10 years into it came over one afternoon and said "enjoy it. Because between school, homework, and extra curricular activities, I don't really get to hang out with my kids like this anymore." Every phase seems to just a season and I'm probably gonna miss it when it passes.
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Zak El Fassi
@zef
Good perspective. I’d argue “school, homework, and extra curricular activities” are legacy systems created by generations who either didn’t get the MIB visit and/or didn’t have access to resources and frameworks (and tech) to help them integrate all the above into their sense of Self. Also, oof re: 2 years down pov and appreciate your honesty. I don’t know what to make of that 🫨🤡
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Zak El Fassi
@zef
also fwiw, i feel like the whole thing accelerates this learning and prioritizes … well, whatever actually need to get prioritized. maybe we’re blessed with these little chaos monsters to inject a dose of discernment into our otherwise sleepyheadedness https://farcaster.xyz/july/0x8c31d862
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Zach
@zherring
dude, yes, 10000% this. there was this moment I had when she was around 6 months. I'd been doing the founder grind for 1.5 years, consultant and startup grind for a decade before that and was always look to optimize. to accelerate. to speed up. and I started to change my kid's diaper one day and did the tummy time thing while we waited. and I stood there and just watched her. and I realized that there was nothing I could do to accelerate or speed up. time will move forward. she'll progress at her own speed. and I'm really just here to witness and support. and it was like ... coming unstuck for a moment, from the last decade of "hurry up" in a really impactful, meaningful way. I'm really thankful for that moment and I'm trying to be thankful for every moment after that. 😅 this is a different mode of life that I wasn't able to experience without it.
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Zak El Fassi
@zef
this is beautiful, thank you for sharing this precious memory and moment. yeah… seems like the whole thing (~=onboarding a new human) is fine-tuned to teach the parents about life lessons they might’ve either not internalized or have resisted for a bit waiting for the spark-bulb to go off. it’s day 15 here and the pattern is uncanny. it’s like onboarding a new employee with the caveat that both your destinies are intertwined in more metaphysical ways than not. (i’d say the same about onboarding an employee but people would think i’m crazy~ier than the usual.)
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Zach
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Yeah I love that framing re a whole thing fine tuned to learn something you wouldn't otherwise. Also, day 15?? You're in it. Congrats and I swear it does it better 😅
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