Venkatesh Rao ☀️
@vgr
I basically never ask myself, “what can I do to help others?” 🤔 I’m not ungenerous, and I do typically try to help out people if they ask for something specific enough, but it literally never occurs to me to proactively wonder or ask. The only exception is if I come across a very specific idea or thing I know someone else can use, in which case I forward/send. Is this like a genetic thing? Are there people who walk around being intuitively sensitive to others’ needs and trying to be helpful?
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Sachin
@sach
I used to be more "helpful" but I think it was kind of a maladaptive pattern. I've tuned it out a little.
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Anuraj R
@anurajenp
probably normally distributed trait. But I think many people who have this question also have the corollary “what do I get in return” unconsciously, but it does not feel nice to know that in oneself. 😂, of course normal distribution for this too
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0xmons ✝️
@xmon.eth
ye some ppl more proactively think abt this q
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Inca
@inca
No genetics, its a default cultural setting. Without verbs encoding mutual care, proactive helping becomes a non natural reasoning. Indo-European languages frame aid as individual, transactional, optional acts (“I help you”). Unlike Quechua’s -naku- or Swahili’s -an-, which grammatically enforce interdependent reciprocity meaning "We help each other mutually".
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