I basically never ask myself, “what can I do to help others?” 🤔

I’m not ungenerous, and I do typically try to help out people if they ask for something specific enough, but it literally never occurs to me to proactively wonder or ask. The only exception is if I come across a very specific idea or thing I know someone else can use, in which case I forward/send.

Is this like a genetic thing? Are there people who walk around being intuitively sensitive to others’ needs and trying to be helpful?

Delver at contraptions.venkateshrao.com, running summerofprotocols.com, host of /gloom ☀️

No genetics, its a default cultural setting.

Without verbs encoding mutual care, proactive helping becomes a non natural reasoning.

Indo-European languages frame aid as individual, transactional, optional acts (“I help you”).

Unlike Quechua’s -naku- or Swahili’s -an-, which grammatically enforce interdependent reciprocity meaning "We help each other mutually".