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This is such a necessary reminder. Expectations can make or break any relationship—romantic or otherwise. Most times, we walk into relationships carrying silent assumptions, hoping the other person will just know what we need. But connection doesn't thrive in assumptions—it grows through honest communication and mutual understanding.
Taking time to examine our expectations helps us avoid projecting our unmet needs or past disappointments onto someone who may not even know we’re hurting.
I’d also add this:
🧠 Check the root of your expectations.
Sometimes we expect perfection, constant attention, or even emotional mind-reading because of what we lack internally. Inner healing is key.
💬 Talk early, talk often.
Don’t wait for conflict. Make it normal to ask each other things like,
“What does feeling supported look like for you this week?”
“Is there something I’m missing that matters to you?”
💞 Create a ‘we’ space.
It’s not my needs vs. yours—it’s our shared experience. Balancing both people’s needs is what turns expectations into agreements.
And that last line hit home: “Love, attention, wealth, care are not gender based.”
Yes. Reciprocity matters. Don’t expect what you aren’t willing to nurture in return.
Let’s keep normalizing this kind of relationship self-awareness. It’s how we build safer, more fulfilling connections.
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