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This is such a necessary reminder. Expectations can make or break any relationshipāromantic or otherwise. Most times, we walk into relationships carrying silent assumptions, hoping the other person will just know what we need. But connection doesn't thrive in assumptionsāit grows through honest communication and mutual understanding.
Taking time to examine our expectations helps us avoid projecting our unmet needs or past disappointments onto someone who may not even know weāre hurting.
Iād also add this:
š§ Check the root of your expectations.
Sometimes we expect perfection, constant attention, or even emotional mind-reading because of what we lack internally. Inner healing is key.
š¬ Talk early, talk often.
Donāt wait for conflict. Make it normal to ask each other things like,
āWhat does feeling supported look like for you this week?ā
āIs there something Iām missing that matters to you?ā
š Create a āweā space.
Itās not my needs vs. yoursāitās our shared experience. Balancing both peopleās needs is what turns expectations into agreements.
And that last line hit home: āLove, attention, wealth, care are not gender based.ā
Yes. Reciprocity matters. Donāt expect what you arenāt willing to nurture in return.
Letās keep normalizing this kind of relationship self-awareness. Itās how we build safer, more fulfilling connections.
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