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nautiluxx
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When your loved one barely leaves the house, of course you're happy anytime they agree to go for a walk together. Then the waiting begins. You do a couple of micro-chores. You tidy up your inbox. You check your Farcaster. In the meantime, your loved one thinks of one more thing to do, then another, then another. You try to nudge them: 'Can we go, please?' as gently as possible in order to avoid a conflict. Because you know if you have a fight now they will stay put and all your effort will have been in vain. Almost an hour goes by and your loved one is finally ready to leave. You're fuming but you still don't want to say anything. Then when you start walking, your loved one starts chatting and you curtly reply with one-liners. After some time, you finally let go of the anger and have a bit of relaxed time together. Then you tell them politely that you felt really angry while waiting for them, to which they immediately take offense.
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nautiluxx
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Sometimes it feels like you're the one always making concessions. And it becomes hard to see that your loved one makes them, too; it's just that the world is such a different place for them. And sometimes they have to try their best just to get out of bed, let alone to get through the day. Don't be afraid of letting them know how you feel. First, make sure your frustration has cooled down. Then, while talking, focus as much as possible on your feelings and your emotions. Stress that you don't blame them if necessary; just bring your message across as neutrally as possible and let them process it in their own way, in their own time. There is goodwill behind the disfunctionality; in its own time, it will show. Patience is key.
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