"Thinking decentralized" is a real skill. Economics is the first and so far only discipline that has mastered a narrow version of it. Computer science is starting to get close (both AI and non-AI versions). Neuroscience (rogue neuron theories) only started getting there very recently.

Delver at contraptions.venkateshrao.com, running summerofprotocols.com, host of /gloom ☀️

Is there anything you can recommend to refine or help with that skill?

Dunno. I'm not particularly good at it myself.

Laziness and reluctance to either lead or follow seems to be a good starting posture. Forces you to learn decentralization out of sheer necessity.