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The advice my therapist gave me was decide whether this person is “enough” for you. Often we’re caught up in having all of our boxes checked, but most of the time, we can all deal with 90% of them being checked. 

Dating culture tells us to never settle. But when you’re with someone long term, you and them change. It becomes less about what they can offer and more about what they’re willing to give and change? If you get my point.

I know this is THE advice on this topic (Logan Ury book). The mistake I made was not having ~dated~ a lot before getting into my - now multi year - relationship. My girlfriend is entirely confident in our future and...

I can't seem to plan 2 weeks in the future. I'm not sure if that's because of me (and I would feel this way no matter who I'm with) or because she is not the one for me.

when i met my current partner, i was against marriage. i didn't see the value in it, only the risk, knowing the statistical probability of divorce. what's the point, why risk the fallout when our lives are great without it? i explained this to her - about a year into our relationship - when she brought up the idea. i *knew* at the time that there was nobody in the world that would change my views on the matter. i loved her, but would never marry her. soulmates don’t exist, and that’s fine

our relationship was great, so we continued our lives together, allowing our love for one another to develop freely. over time, we became so close, so together, that my perspective began to change. “i have no desire to be with anyone else, quite the opposite, my worst nightmare would be losing her.” time progressed, our bond grew stronger… why wouldn’t we get married? there's no reason not to... we’re now happily engaged to be married this fall. it feels right. maybe we are soulmates