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Alina Ferry
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Shower thoughts: a lot of us here get pissed off when we don’t get enough engagement (sometimes rightfully so, sometimes not). What bugs me personally though is seeing great content that gets engagement and realizing that I may never achieve that level of content quality, no matter what I do (or don’t). I try to honestly assess myself as objectively as humanly possible and choose my battles wisely. As in I don’t see a point of doing something if I’ll never get to where I want to be. I’ve never been “it’s about the journey” kind of girl. As a rule, I don’t do stuff just for fun if the outcome I want is simply not happening. I often stop to revise the situation and check the temp - is there a chance of improvement if I pursue the activity? If not, it’s often better to drop it before sunken costs (including time) become regrettable. I think this may be the primary reason why I have a stable non-creative career in a generally creative field. I was lucky enough to pivot to more mundane aspects of our business when it became clear that a truly creative career was never in the books for me. Took a long time to move on from this kind of heartbreak but eventually it made the overall quality of my life significantly better. *no grudges against any accounts doing well here except for a few that I genuinely dislike for personal reasons* **nobody’s gonna read this hehe - but hey, at least I got to test the word limit**
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You too?!
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I just meant that I've had almost all of those thoughts myself... "Can I keep up with the content that's already being produced? If so, where do I find the time to learn how to produce it? How expensive is it? Is the juice worth the squeeze?" Then, it's really hard for to not compare myself to others- especially when "my social score" is a huge determinant of "my onchain success" - whatever that is lol. Personally, (and this took about 38 years to get to this place) I've found comfort in truly knowing 3 things about who I am which help keep me grounded and greatly reduce the performance anxiety that's so common to social places. 1. I am accepted in Jesus. 2. I am secure in Jesus. 3. I am significant in Jesus. The other part of me dealing with that anxiety comes from applying this question that Stephen C. Hayes, author of "Get Out Of Your Mind & Into Your Life" eventually takes his readers to: "Am I willing?" For him it means being willing to accept your emotions not as a part of your identity, but something you can accept or avoid. Accepting how I feel has been crucial. But beyond just that... Am I willing to be dependent on God? Identifying emotions and then (as quickly as I can) being willing to entrust God with them has been a wildly better mode of operation for me. Another piece to the puzzle for me has been arriving at a definition of success which has made all the difference in the world: Success isn't something to be achieved in the world, but it's something to be received from Jesus at the moment of faith. I am successful because He is successful. He has overcome the world. And therefore, so have I as I am in Him. This doesn't erase the difficult and necessary things of life, but it places them in their proper order. If me gaining success "from the world" or "from my own actions" is what makes me accepted, secure and/or significant - it's not truly success, and I won't be truly successful. That's my very looong way of saying that I empathize with you 😆 Thanks for being so open! Great discussions and discoveries start there.
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