“Be present with what’s present while placing the emphasis—the accent mark, a glowing attention—on your being the one who is present with this feeling. In other words, be the observer knowingly, steadily, wakefully.”
lesson to my future kids:
“outcomes cannot give you what you want”
investigate this deeply
notice how attaching to outcomes has worked out for you. has it been effective?
see through it!
anxiety has something to do with not being able to tolerate uncertainty
noticing patterns of tension in your mind and body when confronted with uncertainty will tell you a lot about how you can work with it
"For every extra hour spent television viewing, there was a 13% increase in the risk of having low attachment to parents and a 24% increase in the risk of having low attachment to peers."
older study. looking into if there have been any replications. but wow if true
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/382905