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timdaub
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1. I want to genuinely discuss this although it is an emotional topic 2. Online media always simplifies dating as such (at least what I get recommended): - Man: has to be world-class breadwinner - Woman: Has to be stunningly female and beautiful
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3. So this is obviously simplified and statistical. But it seems to work out because you can see this, for example, with rich guys dating models and models dating rich guys. 4. I also feel like this works out for dating apps too. No idea about the female xp, but my best guess is that looks trump smarts there
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5. So then another common trope see is the idea of hypergamy, so that women date upwards and men date only their level or downwards. And if you pair this with the core attraction criteria then the successful dude dates the hot gal 6. And so all of the previous points are still consistent.
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7. Then you also have women seemingly enforcing the idea of hypergamy, for example, a very attractive woman will request very specific success-signaling trades about their desired partner. Like, for example, in TikToks 8. Now just as a disclaimer, yes you can find exceptions to the norm for all if these.
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9. There‘s also this crazy desirability study which basically says women are attractive when they‘re young (and then start losing) and men keep gaining until they‘re 50). 10. I can‘t help but to connect the dots: The dude‘s career culminating at 50 and the gal‘s beauty fading with age
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11. Yet, depictions of the hypergamy concept always show an initial state, so _when_ a pairing exist, but in fact, as the desirability study shows, desirability for men and women changes over time. 12. But relationships last long, so long that there can be a lot of change in desirability.
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13. So I must say I‘m a bit skeptical of all of this modeling. For example, if a young man picked a woman at her highest desirability, he‘d only be losing throughout the relationship while continuing to ascend the social ladder. This can impossibly be good for the relationship, if it was a core criteria initially
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