reposting my thoughts on chloe’s piece because i think it’s important for the girls, especially the ones newer to the space. i’ve worked in crypto since 2017 and i’ve experienced more than my share of bullshit and trauma. some of it public, most of it quiet. what i’ve learned: protection doesn’t come from formal structures, it comes from each other.
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i appreciate the honesty here, and i agree with some points.. performative feminism and internalized misogyny are real issues, especially in hypervisible spaces like CT. but I think this piece collapses a lot of nuance into a single, sweeping narrative

yes, contradictions exist. but so does context. sometimes what looks like "subtweeting" is actually people processing harm. sometimes women with platforms are learning in public, imperfectly, while also trying to survive an ecosystem not built for them.

there's no universal playbook for how to show up, and expecting perfect solidarity under constant scrutiny feels like a setup

i also think it’s dangerous to frame complex behavior as “selective feminism” without acknowledging how power operates. in a space where connections = survival, some people are navigatinng real fear (of exclusion, of retaliation, of reputational loss). that doesn't excuse harmful behavior, but it does explain some of the silence! 

feminism in crypto isn’t failing because women are messy or contradictory. It’s evolving under pressure inside an ecosystem that often rewards compliance over speaking out

speaking from personal experience: whisper networks exist for a reason. formal structures rarely protect you and the cost of naming harm publicly can be brutal (socially, professionally, emotionally). you lose access. you get labeled “difficult.” you become the problem for pointing out the problem.

that’s why many women leverage their networks quietly, to stay safe, to warn each other, to survive. sometimes it’s choosing not to speak up because you know how this ends.

so yes, there are contradictions. yes, people falter. but that’s not a failure of feminism, it’s a feature of navigating power while trying to build something better.

if you’ve never had to choose between your safety and your credibility, you’re lucky. if you have, you know that survival often looks like silence. andd that doesn’t make you complicit. it makes you real!! 

let’s push for more care
but let’s also have grace for people who are still figuring it out while trying to build something better in public https://paragraph.com/@intrusivethots/women-in-web3-are-some-of-the-most-confusing-people-ive-ever-met

Every time you think “why are people doing things I don’t like?!?!?”

There is a reason.

And it’s better to try to figure out that reason before throwing them under the bus.

Being a woman in crypto is complicated and there’s so much subtext because when you are not the dominant group it can be too expensive to say what you want to say outright or trust everyone right away.