I'm asking for your advice. How do I become not too kind? I have a fear of telling people no. For example, an acquaintance tells long about their relationship, and I keep silent and listen, although I'm not interested. We rent an apartment with an acquaintance. She asks me to wake her up at 7 a.m. to work, but I don't have to go anywhere. In the morning her alarm clock rings, she doesn't hear it and continues to sleep. From my bed, I say get up. No response. I get out of bed and start braking her to get up, otherwise she will be late. She didn't react, then she said she'd get up herself. In the end, she got mad at me, got up later and took a cab. I bought myself something to eat, a portion for one person. But my upbringing does not allow me not to ask those around me if they are hungry. I end up with an almost empty plate. Today I was thinking about it, not for nothing psychologists say to share from excess, and if you have nothing, do not give. It's the fear that I'll find myself in the place of the beggar.