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I have always been anxiously attached to the people around me. Romantically or platonically, I had a strong desire for closeness with a crazy fear of abandonment. I always thought love had to move fast and be all consuming else it wasn’t real or could be taken away. I needed speed and instant connection in a friendship or relationship else I felt unwanted. That is why love bombing could work on me, I never understood it but can fall for it because if someone says, “I’ve never felt this way about someone so quickly”, I’d feel chosen and reassured. 

Not anymore though. 

Ours is slow, intentional and safe for me. The slowness doesn’t feel like rejection, it feels like being seen and chosen to be known intentionally.