farcastHER

Thots? 

I recently had one of my best friends (gay dude) who is going through surrogacy with his husband, jokingly ask me if I’d carry their baby bc “no womb, no baby” 

I responded “no.” 

He got upset that I didn’t know how to take a joke

Saying things with my chest 

Recovering people pleaser 

🌑🌒🌓🌔🌕🌖🌗🌘🌑

SUBSTACK / INSTAGRAM

Feels very shrodinger’s joke. it’s not a joke if you said yes, but definitely a joke if you said no and why are you so sensitive!!

So yeah I’m a sensitive bitch but men who can throw a joke best be able to take a boundary

Perhaps. Or perhaps I see a boundary - there is more to it. I verbally said to him “I’m glad I established my boundary with that joke text” and then he got all emotional and was upset that I didn’t know he felt badly in general about the process. There was a lot of assumicide of my capacity for emotional labor on his part and I am DONE doing that with men

Exactly ! I think there’s a big waking up happening. Or I hope lolol

ugh yes, I got a lot goin on, I don’t want to have to anticipate men’s feelings too.