Most people don't want to hear this, but real relationships that last involve a lot of forgiveness. You have to accept the fact that your partner isn't perfect & will hurt you, disappoint you, & upset you. You have to figure out if you're willing to go through ups & downs with them. Even though it isn't a bad idea to have deal breakers in your relationships but mahn you've got to be a forgiving partner for your relationship to last longer.

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Some people just don't want to carry on with it anymore