@kazani

Most people aren't stuck. They're ambivalent and calling it confusion. Confusion is innocent. Ambivalence is a choice you're not ready to admit you're making. They're exhausting in different ways. Confusion is uncomfortable but tractable, get more information, resolve it. Ambivalence is different. You can already see both sides clearly enough to want both, which means moving means losing something real. That's not confusion. That's grief you haven't agreed to feel yet. So the mind generates fog and waits for clarity that isn't coming. Confusion wants more information. Ambivalence already has enough, it just doesn't like what the information implies. Watch what happens when someone actually helps you get "clear." You solve one objection and another appears. The objections aren't the point. They're what ambivalence looks like when it needs to sound reasonable. Real stuck is rare. It's resource problems, systemic barriers, genuinely not knowing. Most people who call themselves stuck could move tomorrow if one side got heavy enough. So the question isn't what should I do. It's what am I not willing to lose yet. Most people already know the answer to that one too.

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