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5- Major Things to Talk about before Marriage.

60% of divorces cases happens because of poor communications and unmet expectations.

📍 Finance. Everything that has to do with money, it's the number one cause of divorce. Money fights are marriage killers. Arguing over financial secrets, money debts, spending habits can destroy trust even before the marriage begins. How would you handle joint account vs. Personal spendings? What are your financial goals? Is it buying a house or saving of retirement benefits? Who will manage the money or will it be a shared responsibility? If you and your partner don't align on issue of money, you'll be setting yourselves up for a constant conflict. Discuss about finances now my friend. 

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📍Finally CORE VALUES AND BELIEVES. The foundation of marriage you can't miss this one. Religion, politics etc what do they think about it. Personal values and believe system are to be talked about. This thing can become massive divides if not addressed early. I'm talking about Faith, values, culture, tradition as a way of life. How important are they in your relationship, what are the non-negotiables in marriage. What is your view or what do you understand by gender roles in the household. Love is not enough if your core values clashes. Deep alignment in this area will prevent future disasters. Marriage is a lifetime commitment don't go into it blindly. If you avoid all of the above at the early stage before marriage you'll pay for it later dearly in marriage. Many are paying for it now, I want y'all to have this tough talk please.

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📍TALK ABOUT FAMILY & CHILDREN. About numbers of kids, do you both want children or no kids at all ? proximity of family member's/relatives. Unspoken expectations leads to resentment. How involved would your parents and in-laws be in your marriage? What parenting style do you believe in - strict, relaxed or something in between ? Never assume your partner wants the same lifestyle as you ask questions. Ask the hard questions early.

📍CAREER & LIFESTYLE: will your dream clash? You'll never know, what happens when ones career requires moving and the other refuses and wants to stay? Uncompromising dreams can break a marriage. Are you willing to relocate for a job opportunity? How do you balance career and family time? What's your idle lifestyle ? Is it city living, suburbs or country ? If your vision and future does not align you'll fighting an uphill battle. You discuss career sacrifices before marriage very important. 

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📍CONFLICT RESOLUTION. How do you fight? It has to be talked about because some couples shutdown in conflict others explode. Unresolved conflicts turns small issues into deal breakers. Do you need space during arguments? Find out from your partner. Do you prefer talking it out immediately? Is a style find out. What is your deal breaker in a fight? For example name calling, swearing, physical, walking away.  How do you fight? How will you repair/recover after a big fight? How long will it take you to recover from conflicts? It is not about avoiding conflicts,  it is about handling it in a way that it strengthens your bond emotionally together.

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