@bash2424

NO NAUGHTY CHILDREN I strongly believe there are no naughty children. There are only vulnerable children who need to be studied and helped. By God’s grace, I have worked with teenagers for about 11 years now. I have helped and. observed them at their lowest moments. Rejoiced and observed them at their jovial moments. I have studied the family backgrounds and asked questions about the ‘naughty ones.’ Observed and asked questions about the ‘good ones’ I am still learning, but here are some of my submissions. Every child WILL thrive when given the right environment and motivation to grow. It is not just about teaching your kid moral/Christian/Islamic values, I believe you will need to know what makes them tick. Why are they exhibiting the new negative behaviors you are seeing? Have they started exhibiting symptoms of a learning/coping disability like Autism? You see those ‘naughty kids’ you talk about, all of them have been failed by society at one point in time. Some grew up with parents who never cared about their welfare Some grew up with abusive parents who had no qualms with showing such abuse to their kids Some grew up with parents who engaged in domestic violence with themselves. Some joined the gang of bad friends to get access to drugs which ‘calmed’ them from their raging lack of sleep and sometimes unmanageable coping disabilities. Some of these kids grew up in poor neighborhoods where the local models were thieves and local gang leaders. Some developed learning disabilities from the womb due to parents who couldn’t even care to stop doing drugs. Some grew up with single parents who never really got support from their partners nor the government. Some grew up in places where they were being exploited and used by wicked adults to run drug trades. Are you seeing all these? You see, it is always easy to avoid seeing the big picture when you see these kids lash out. You see them stealing or using profanity freely and you immediately think they are rotten by a deliberate act. You see them engage in sexual relationships and you don’t even understand that they are victims who were exposed to that act by deviant adults. You see these kids and you start thanking God for your ‘perfect child.’ Well, I will tell you this for free. Number One- No child is perfect. Number Two- That kid you see as imperfect has the capacity to turn his/her life around if you start looking beyond the act to identify the causatives. The ‘naughty’ kids need all the help they can get. They need that help from you and I. However, it starts from seeing the positive image they could potentially become, while working to eradicate/reduce the negative surrounding factors in their present.

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