Being a parent is actually a practice of constantly giving up one's obsession.

When the child is still a baby, the father should give up part of his space in his wife's world to the child.

In adolescence, fathers should give up their heroic image again, just to let their children try a new identity.

When the child becomes an adult, the father should completely abandon his obsession with the "ideal child" and accept the child to eventually become herself. All kinds of abandonment will not only not bring disability, but will make us more complete and mature people in personality and mind [Come on] [Come on] [Come on]