@abram
wow and here i was thinking i'd *read* your blog.
i hear you on the distractions piece. also seeing your own face, i always turn that off when possible.
i do think that it's harder to build rapport and a deep connection with someone when you can't see their face - i think there's a fairly fundamental human psychology piece at play, probably rooted in biology. eg a baby's face lights up differently when looking at another human's face vs a non-human-but-still-entertaining object.
anecdotally i've found audio only works better for me with folks i already know (have met in person or on a video call). i prefer video for folks i'm just getting to know (reading body language helps me) or folks i am very close with (family, best friends, etc where those distractions aren't there).