you’re sleeping in a luxurious 5-star hotel room on the 5th floor with your friend and her one-year-old baby, and suddenly at 5 in the morning you wake up to someone knocking on your balcony door. 

in shock, i open the door and there’s a man completely covered in blood standing there.

what would you do? 

apparently i’m too nice of a person — the first thing i did was open the door and ask what happened, how can i help? he apologized a lot and just asked to pass through our room into the hallway.

now i’m thinking that, from a safety point of view, what i did was really wrong. he was definitely on drugs. 

in the morning we had a police and it seems there was a personal problem between guests. 

let’s see how the hotel is going to compensate it.

Classical musician and educator with psychology qualification. humansdid.com ambassador https://paragraph.xyz/@katekornish

In these situations, I've found your gut instincts are usually correct. Your lizard brain/fast brain subconsciously took in the situation, didn't alert you or raise your hackles, and everything went well. Your slow brain only later calculated that was risky.

If you hadn't let him in would the situation have escalated and he started trying to break in but now mad at you? Who knows.

Glad you're well