@volve
A man who does not take care of himself will be taken care of by none, and if that is not true for you, it is because you did for long enough to find love or were simply a burden from day one, and in your great blessing but likewise limitation cushioned from the misery of abject failure.
Let me be clear:
If you were cared for at your lowest, it's either because you earned sufficient grace through prior effort, or were never expected to carry yourself to begin with.