@sinusoidalsnail

I agree. And I feel like the recent excessive quote-casting of women's pictures (regardless of how they're dressed) isn't funny. It's intentionally hostile. When I first joined Farcaster, I used my own face as my pfp. I was immediately harassed about it. I had someone publicly tell me my pfp indicated that I have a "high body count." It was really humiliating. Then there was that narrative about how women should “prove they’re real.” That time period emboldened a lot more harassment. I had people say I shouldn't use my face as my pfp, unless I proved to them that it was really me. Simultaneously, people said women SHOULD use their faces for their pfp, as proof that they exist, and aren’t scammers. Well, which one is it?! No matter what women do, they will always be considered “traps,” because they are women. I stopped using pictures of myself after that. And I will never again publicly share non-blurred pics. I absolutely HATE that I got bullied into that decision by guys who were pissed that not every woman out there wants to fuck them. (Sorry to be so blunt, but I think we all know that’s exactly what this is about.) Farcaster is the one remaining place on the internet where I can have countless intellectual conversations about sci-fi, art, computing, literature. But in the back of my mind is always this feeling of, “what if they find out how I look?” If I were to post pictures of myself, I know without a doubt, that all my other posts would be taken less seriously. Do men understand how much this feeling sucks? I ask this as a sincere question, not an accusation. I wonder if there is a comparable feeling for men? If not, here’s what it feels like (at least to me): It feels like there is a part of you that has always been, and will always be, shameful. And you must hide that part of you, if you want to be respected. And, when you ARE respected, that’s only because they don’t know how you look. It feels like your words are only taken seriously when they’re detached from your physical being. And worst of all, it feels like people you’ve become friends with, may not want to be your friend anymore if they find out you’re a “thirst trap.” I have a shit ton of respect for women sharing pics of themselves. And these past few days, I have lost a lot of respect for the people I've seen interacting with those pictures in a misogynist way

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