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„Dating is great in NYC.”

     — a girl that has been dating
         for last 10 years

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I don’t think girls their 30s like that knows what they want

> Do you know what you want (in a woman)?

I have a very strict value spec but I'm not adamant on the details.

> I know now better what I’d like in a partner and know myself better to catch my own red flags

I think negative filtering is much better than positive filtering (ie. filtering through positives first, ie. beaut, smartness) People are so different and surprising that it's better to discards quickly based on negatives and let people shine their own light when they pass without having too many expectations

Could be. Could also be that she likes the thrill of dating/getting to know people and (currently) rejects traditional norms of when you should “settle”.

Do you know what you want (in a woman)?

We’ve talked about it a bit. I *think* I know now better what I’d like in a partner and know myself better to catch my own red flags.