@janna

It was gradual in that I started questioning why I was so introverted, and did I have to remain this way? Then it was sudden when I went somewhere I'd never been and deliberately took the opposite approach: instead of overthinking, I started mostly just saying what I was thinking. It worked surprisingly well, and I began changing my style of talking. Rather than only asking questions, which was my ‘formula’ for keeping conversation going (but backfired when people gave v short answers), I started telling stories That shifted things away from feeling like small talk or even feeling like an effortful engagement, and made it feel like sitting around a campfire. And either people responded better or I wasn't analysing so much. Whatever came to mind became better, like honing an intuition. Being around people was less effort, and I felt more at ease and like I didn’t have to force so much How did you start with building up people skills and confidence in conversation?

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