@jacy

i’m not the star-struck type, but i have met an abnormally high amount of celebrities in my life. the most influential ones being Steph Curry, Barack Obama, Oprah, and Ruth Bader Ginsburg. hawaii-centric ones include Jason Momoa, The Rock, Bruno Mars, and the entire cast of Lost. there’s also been dozens of crossings with random sports, music, and hollywood types like Dennis Rodman & Shaq, Jason Stackhouse of True Blood, and an awkward encounter with Gwen Stefani & her ex in an elevator. i was also once an arm’s length away from Beyoncé and Jay at Coachella for The XX set, and shared a drink with Boston Robb at a Snoop Dogg concert (s/o @nounishprof). a lot of these were fortuitous encounters - being in the right place at the right time. but a decent portion were the result of living by the motto “you don’t get 100% of the things you don’t ask for.” i asked to meet steph curry. i asked to meet RBG. i asked to meet Obama. these weren’t easy asks to make, but i’m of the school of thought that if you want something, ask for it. *i apply this line of thinking to every aspect of my life* want a better airline seat? ask for it. a discount on something i’m buying? ask for it. better pay, hours, or benefits? ask for it. what’s the worst that can happen? they say no? the fear of rejection or being ridiculed or chastised is a hard stop for the majority of people. so by asking, you’re already in rare air. and yeah, it may be uncomfortable. you likely need to negotiate. it may require sacrifice. they may even say no. but here’s the thing - on the other side of that discomfort is a whole lot of surprising life upgrades when people do say yes. not just celeb encounters … actual meaningful experiences. cost savings. introductions. raises. access. you just have to start asking. asking is a skill. awkward at first then eventually second nature. but the more you do it, the better you get. and at the end of the day, the only thing worse than a No is spending the rest of your life wondering what a Yes would’ve led to.

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